Monday, July 11, 2011

No Patience For Crap

Maybe I'm getting old, maybe I'm just a bitch...but I seriously have no patience in relationships anymore. I have so many friends going through so much crap in their marriages, dating lives and it just amazes me what people will put up with.

Now before you think I'm all high and mighty please note that I am a moron when it comes to finding love and sustaining a relationship. If you know me well you know the end of my marriage to a good man (even if he isn't the man for me) was 99% my fault. I made some STUPID choices and did things I'll regret forever. I then proceeded to stay in a horrible relationship for three years after that totally ignoring the fact that the man I was with was a compulsive liar and a narcissist. So, I'm no where near perfect.

I also believe in second chances. The people I hurt forgave me and I think we all learned a lot in the process. I'm not religious so I have no fears of some after life overlord still hanging over me. I'm good. And if there is something else out there...well I'm screwed anyway and I'm not going to live a life full of guilt. So just because someone makes a mistake, that doesn't mean that they're out on their keister. I mean, I wouldn't want someone to hold me that high of a standard so I won't do it to someone else either. 

But there comes a point in every relationship where you have to say, does this person make my life better by being in it a good portion of the time? If the answer is no, then it's time to evaluate. If you can find a way to fix it...FANTASTIC! But if you can't then why put yourself through a lifetime of torture? We only pass this way one time and I refuse to live it in misery. So perhaps my threshold for tolerance is lower than most people's now, but we teach people how to treat us and I deserve something great.